Sex scandal knocks yoga world off balance

John Friend, the founder of Anusara yoga, is facing some serious accusations of both sexual and financial misconduct. Here, he attends day one of the Leaders Causing Leaders event on November 6, 2010, in Long Beach, Calif.

The ever-balanced world of yoga is rocking after a sex scandal involving a big-time guru has many wondering if the phenomenally popular practice is about to take a tumble.

For the uninitiated, John Friend, the founder of the fast-growing Anusara style of yoga, is currently in the downward doghouse following a series of accusations against him involving both sexual and financial misconduct.

"It's really just everywhere in the yoga community right now," says Amy Hess, a 35-year-old yoga instructor from Richmond, Va.

As a result, Friend has taken a leave of absence, sent out a public letter of apology and told his many followers that he's immersing himself in a period of "self-reflection, therapy and personal retreat."

While Friend reflects, about 60 to 75 teachers of Anusara -- a form of yoga based on alignment and teachings from Tantric philosophy -- have resigned, according to Yoga Dork, which broke the news of the scandal. Many others are wondering if Friend's alleged penchant for sex, drugs and other peoples' money will taint the entire community of yoga, a form of exercise that touts physical as well as mental and spiritual discipline.

"My biggest concern is the negative impact this scandal will have on the world of yoga," says Tommy Rosen, a Vinyasa and Kundalini yoga teacher and co-founder of the Tadasana International Festival of Yoga and Music in Santa Monica. "Some people will be turned off and at least for the short term, [they] might avoid some of these wonderful teachings from Anasura yoga -- John Friend's yoga -- because they come from that camp. And that's a shame."

Yoga students seem to have mixed feelings about the decidedly unyoga-like behavior.

Some feel betrayed, like fashion blogger @ModernGirlStyle who posted "Are there other yoga peeps that are as upset about the fraud of #JohnFriend as me?" on Twitter Thursday.

“I'm not a prude, but yoga is kind of an otherworldly experience. This just stains it for me,” says Barbara Ross, a 63-year-old sales and marketing professional from Seattle. "It's not going to dissuade me from yoga -- nothing will dissuade me from yoga -- but it's so unprofessional.”

Others point to previous sex scandals involving powerful, charismatic men.

"The misappropriation of funds is totally unethical," says Jill Nussinow, a 56-year-old cookbook author from Santa Rosa, Calif., who's practiced Iyengar yoga for the past 16 years. "But this is not the first nor will it likely be the last yoga and sex scandal... President Clinton even screwed up, but I'm not going to say, 'I don't want a president.' We all have human foibles. I'm still going to do yoga."

Stacey Johnes, a 43-year-old marketing vice president from Los Angeles, who has practiced Anusara yoga for a number of years, says that she, too, will remain "a grateful student."

"In the past, I think I put my teachers and yoga itself on a type of pedestal," she says. "But ... I realized that yoga teachers, like the rest of us, are fallible humans. And actually that's okay with me. This has not tainted how I feel about my yoga practice."

Although, she adds, she feels the teacher-student relationship should be treated with appropriate care and respect.

Yoga instructor Amy Hess says the allegations about Friend aren't that shocking, not because she knows anything about the man -- or his behavior -- but because of the powerful nature of his position. 

"The sexual indiscretions are deplorable and gross and an abuse of power, but I don't think it's unique to people in positions of power," she says. "I've seen [men] who tend to flex their power. They're surrounded by fit, active, typically young attractive women. Maybe it's a big 'duh' for everybody, but I'm reading all these stories about these gurus who've had issues and the majority of gurus in yoga are male. And in the West, the majority of practitioners are female.

"I think it lends itself to the idea that yoga instructors and gurus can take advantage of students," she says. "Not to suggest that all teachers have that in mind or all men have that in mind. But there are some that do."

Tommy Rosen, who's been practicing yoga for 20 years, says student-teacher relationships do happen, but they've been happening for thousands of years.

"The idea of a student being attracted to a teacher physically or some other way is so old and ingrained, it's almost a human archetype," he says.

But that doesn't excuse gurus or teachers who act on that attraction, he says.

"My guru was very clear on this point," he says. "When you teach yoga, there's a mantra you say before you teach. 'I am not a man. I am not a woman. I am not a person. I am not myself. I am a teacher.' When you step into a yoga studio and you're the teacher, there needs to be a boundary there."

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    Reply#28 - Sun Mar 4, 2012 8:41 PM EST

    The title of the story, for which the writer might not be responsible, is a lame attempt to be cute. I'm sure it hasn't knocked very many yoga students off balance. I've never even heard of the guy before this story. And, yea, it's short of basic information. And really, isn't this kinda like political corruption in Chicago - so what's new?

      Reply#29 - Sun Mar 4, 2012 11:12 PM EST

      John Friend was my teacher and I have resigned my license to Anusara Yoga. The teachings of yoga rise above and beyond any of the human teachers. However, the tradition of the teacher is celebrated within the teachings of yoga, primarily because its origins are built from an oral tradition, and as such, teachings were passed by sitting with and studying with a teacher and through transmission of shakti/chi/qui/holy spirit. There are many wonderful yoga teachers who have integrity, wisdom and have moved beyond ahamkara (ego)-based actions. Now, I simply choose to study with them and to also dive deeper into an authentic practice and a more authentic life as guided by my inner teacher. Anusara was known for throwing daisies everywhere; we all sobered up super fast. Now: This too shall pass. In reality, Anusara reached its apex pose months ago before the story broke.....it is now dissolving and will transform into another variation/form of yoga. Some teachers will stay, others, like myself move onward...... But, the bottom-line stands: Yoga is awesome for the body, for the mind and, yes, for spirit!

        Reply#30 - Mon Mar 5, 2012 1:23 AM EST

        I think Id be leary of any type of physical activity that starts with the word "anus".....

        Well, looks like he got it in the end.....

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        Reply#31 - Mon Mar 5, 2012 4:10 AM EST

        What was Anusara's apex pose? Maybe Bob has hit on something.

          #31.1 - Mon Mar 5, 2012 6:02 AM EST
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          "Matter your lightsaber size does not, how you use it will."

            Reply#32 - Mon Mar 5, 2012 5:27 AM EST

            What sex scandal? Sexual relations between consenting adults is nobody's business. The story might have detailed exactly what improper behavior was alleged.

              Reply#33 - Mon Mar 5, 2012 8:26 AM EST

              Idolize the practice not the person.

                Reply#34 - Mon Mar 5, 2012 8:40 AM EST

                So, it is confirmed yet again that the pillsbury dough boy with the giant mouth and no brain also has NO balls. A MAN says what he means to say and sticks with it. A....whatever Scumbaugh is.....does not.

                  Reply#35 - Mon Mar 5, 2012 5:29 PM EST

                  The Catholic Church goes on. The schools go on. That had some sexual problems. So, I don't see why yoga shouldn't go on. Parents can be better on briefing there children,plus taking a active role on things like Church camps. Anything the child is active in. These bad dudes can be anywhere or anybody, parents need to realize that.

                  Possible I'm off-base on this article. It tells very little on what this bad dude did.

                    Reply#36 - Tue Mar 6, 2012 2:12 AM EST

                    I recently went to a class with my wife given by a supposed expert from California. He was EXTREMELY flirty with the girls in the class I was one of only 2-3 guys (20 + girls). He was massaging??? their gluteal areas rather generously, and telling funny stories. Lets see, one was the Pussy story (he brought this one up the whole class) He had the girls giggling pretty hard by the end. A few were fawning over him by the end, asking for autographs. I almost laughed out loud a few times about how much of a player this guy was. My wife was shocked that I thought that way at first, but soon began to see it. If he hadnt talked about his wife back home , I would have thought it was just a guy working all the angles, but anyway. Guys, my advice is, go with your wife to the Yoga classes. Some instructors arent just after the meditation stuff.

                      Reply#37 - Thu Mar 15, 2012 12:48 PM EDT

                      This article is dribble - immorality is everywhere - is this news.

                        Reply#38 - Thu Mar 15, 2012 2:34 PM EDT

                        Yoga will continue as religion will. Both have had their share of sex scandals.

                          Reply#39 - Thu Mar 15, 2012 3:36 PM EDT
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